BIL  is a very nice guy and generally speaking pretty smart. BUT, he and my husband  grew up homeschooled and raised on some really interesting rhetoric that my husband has mostly grown out of. BIL, on the other hand, married a woman  who also believes same rhetoric which has reignited this fire, the most concerning of which is that her family (and by extension now BIL) believes vaccines are bad.
They don’t believe they cause autism but they’re extremely set on the fact that they should have absolute autonomy over their bodies and if the [liberal] government promotes something then it should without question be avoided. Enter: their argument against vaccines. They don’t want them because everyone is told to get them so there must be a conspiracy there.
My MIL also touts her skepticism of vaccines quite frequently but honestly she’s easier to handle than BIL. My husband idolizes his brother so when BIL says something, it really hits home.
We, my husband and I, are about to have a baby in 3 months. BIL and his wife have no kids yet but recently shared something on Facebook alleging that the Gates Foundation is promoting vaccines as a vehicle to control everyone… insert more conspiracy theory nonsense here. This prompted me to say something like “If they don’t vaccinate their kids, our kids are not allowed to play with them until they have all had every childhood vaccine they need”. My husband was really offended by this and said I was overreacting.
I understand that was pretty thoughtless and callous to phrase it that way but I take vaccines seriously. I don’t need my kids catching whooping cough because someone didn’t want to “bow to the liberal agenda”.
I really do love my in laws at the end of the day. They’re wonderful, kind hearted people but I think they’re seriously misinformed and also spreading misinformation to each other. How do I stress the importance of this to my husband without alienating him or making him feel like I’m calling his family crazy?