There’s always a gamer that’s like “Uwu, your husband’s depressed so you can’t be mad at him for neglecting you and your family in favor of games,” but at the end of the day, what of it? Even if he is depressed (and aren’t we all – you’re not happy either but somehow you manage to get things done) if he won’t do anything about it, what then?
Send him back to mommy.
He needs serious help, and I don’t mean from you. I’m a huge gamer, to the point where I got a game design degree in college, and when I’m home from work, all I do is game. But I don’t have a family to worry about.
He sounds to me like he is suffering from issues well above MassimoL’s pay grade and is basically trying to live an ideal fantasy life in games, because in a game world YOU have the control. He needs counseling. You need a break from him too, because you’re basically a caregiver to 5 kids, since he is not contributing.
I sympathize with whatever his issues are, as I have PTSD and some days struggle to get out of bed, but he’s an adult. He has a responsibility to his kids and to you, and mental health issues don’t negate that.
Wait… You have four kids with this man and you think hell start helping now XD girl pack your bags, hes had 4 children worth of time… Hes not changing