The mods removed this post yesterday shortly after I posted it. The community was giving some really great and helpful advice, so I’m posting again with a “ThrowRA” username. Hopefully it won’t be deleted this time!
I (30M) got married to my dream girl (30F) last year. We’ve been together for 7 years and I’m more in love with her than I ever imagined possible. She’s smart, fun, hilarious, successful, beautiful, energetic, charismatic, defies stereotypes, and generally is just an extraordinary human being and a joy to be around.
Anyway, sometimes when I think about our relationship, or when I’m still awake and I see she’s sleeping peacefully (she’s adorable and I just melt), I feel a strange sadness. Almost a quiet and gentle mourning of the transitory nature of things—because I know these beautiful moments and this precious time is slipping by and there’s absolutely nothing I can do about it. It’s like a recognition that all things are temporary, which makes these priceless moments feel so sad.
I feel like the more precious the moment, and the more I try to be present in it, the more likely this tinge of quiet sadness is to appear. Because I know that it is just a moment and, as is the nature of moments, it will slip into the past.
Is this normal? How do you cope with these feelings?
PS – Thank you so much to everyone who was commenting yesterday before the post was deleted. I read every single one of your comments and they were all so helpful. In an ironic twist, all of your great comments were lost (see what I mean about the transitory nature of things) when the mods deleted this post.