So I’ve been seeing this girl. We’re both in college. Sleeping with her, going out to dinner, talking every day.
I thought we were kinda casually but exclusively seeing eachother. That’s what she had implied many times to me. The way we were was really intimate. She said I made her really happy and she missed me when I wasn’t there.
I thought I’d go surprise her coz I was back from uni (we go to separate ones). Open the door to her room after being let in by her housemates and she was sucking another dude off.
I know I don’t have any right to her because we weren’t official. But this wasn’t what I thought was happening and it’s hit me quite hard. It’s freaked me out coz I don’t know if she’s been seeing him the whole time and I was enjoying my time with her coz I thought it was something special.
It’s really freaked me out. She hasn’t apologised or anything. She’s actually blamed me for the way I read things. But it’s really upset me.
She says she wants to keep seeing me. But I don’t know if I can keep seeing her after this. Honestly I thought she was different.
How do I deal with this?
People might disagree with me for saying this but personally I’d move on.
You were never exclusive so she did nothing wrong, like you say. But the hurt feelings you have are valid and for her to respond with anger shows immaturity on her part, or self-centredness, or a lack of caring for how you feel.
It was nobody’s fault, sounds like there just needed more communication between you both
She blew her chance with you. That sucks. Definitely hard pill to swallow.
First of all, lots of people’s basic values are “one person at a time”. That is entirely valid. If that is your value system then being with her will never work.
My man even stevie wonder could see through this shit
Leave her, you don’t deserve that
What if the other guy felt like you?Maybe she’s a player. If you were exclusive I would be upset but it dosen’t sound that way.You my friend are hurt/angry because she had a dick in mouth and it wasn’t yours I absolutely get that,however tell her how it really made you feel.