I've been engaged to my fiance(25, f) for one year. Our relationship has been two years and we've been friends for 6. She's always been monogamous but has decided she wants to be poly now and have us see other people on our own time and experience life and that there's all these interesting kinky thing she wants to do and fantasies that she can't live without experiencing. Neither of us are vanilla and have had plenty of partners in life before eachtother… but I'm just not interested in haing anything but a closed relationship. I have no problem with polyamory if all parties consent and that is their orientation, great!!! But it's just not for me and I don't want to participate in it.
She's been saying I'm weird and crazy for this, that all guys would die for that and good luck to me ever finding a girl who isn't secretly also poly, that I'm going to get cheated on, that this is how humans are SUPPOSED TO BE.
It's my personal opinion that humans weren't “made” to be anything but whatever they enjoy as individuals and that we are all different.
..and we've actually split up now because of it.. among several other reasons.. I told her I simply just can't see myself in that life and she's just baffled with it.