He says it’s his vacation too so he should do what he wants. How does that make sense? Because you could say the exact same to him… you should do things together, not alone. If he wants to be alone, he shouldn’t be with you. Him calling you selfish is so rich considering his behaviour
Former sports competitor here, and holy shit he’s a selfish asshole. Look, I have had vacations with friends and partners while still being on a training schedule. The truth is that once you choose to compete, particularly if you want to go national or beyond, you need to train regardless of how much or how little you want to train that day.
Having said that, that doesn’t give you an excuse to being an asshole partner. He can very well plan a lighter week into his training. In fact, he should unless he wants to burn out. This lighter can easily be planned on weeks with vacations, holidays, and other special dates. Hell, even pro athletes have downtime and THEY GET PAID TO TRAIN. Imo, you deserve better, and he deserves the boot given that you have already tried to talk with him, and he’s responded by putting you down.
Trouble in paradise! Running first, you second! You are at your prime and there is someone out there that won’t disrespect you. Go for it.
> I have tried to talk to him about this and he explodes, has even resorted to calling me selfish and a brat for ‘whining’ that we don’t spend much quality time together anymore.
Why the fuck are you with this person? Why in the world did the “relationship” continue after this happened? What are you getting out of this?
Set your boundary clearly and kindly with an alternative. Maybe say you understand running is important to him, but that something has to change because you don’t like feeling alone. That may mean him getting up earlier and running or something. Suggest counseling or working on this and throw down the ultimatum of you leaving if he doesn’t want to work on it. If he seems concerned and willing to change that is good…if not, follow through and leave the relationship. This is kind and allows an opportunity for change on his part, while also not allowing him to run over you and your feelings.