I first posted this on r/AmItheAsshole, but was informed it would better fit here, so I repost it here.
I love writing stories, and the characters I write are all rather diverse. I‘m also bisexual, and my boyfriend knows this.
Now, recently I began writing a fantasy novel while we were in quarantine together, and I‘m quite far along. My boyfriend is always pretty excited to see me write. He also sometimes asks me, if I have a character which represents him, which I find a bit weird. I normally never write about real people in my story. I just love to create characters from scratch and to let them act in a world entirely fictional. So I always say “oh, those are only fictional characters, they represent no one”.
He seems confused by that, but doesn’t say anything else. I was almost finished with my story, when he asked me, if he could read it. I said yes, but he shouldn’t have too high expectations, because I didn’t really proof read it yet.
Now I should tell you a bit about the story.
It‘s basically about a princess and a maid falling in love in a really conservative society. Basically people want to marry the princess off, but obviously she doesn’t want that. This is basically the “background” of the story, but there is still a lot of other stuff going on which is too much to get into.
He read it in a few days, and he got really quite and avoided me. I was a bit confused, but thought his stressful work might be the reason.
He then confronted me yesterday night and asked me, if I really loved him. I said of course. He then asked me why I was writing about a lesbian relationship. Again confused I said that the story was interesting for me. He then accused me of self inserting myself into the story to live out my “forbidden feelings”. We then began arguing with him requesting that they brake up in the story and the princess to end up with a male character he really liked. I then said I was planning for that character being gay, and him and the princess later to work together to escape their situation. He blew up at me and demanded I change the story, even kill the lover of the princess. I then also screamed, saying I can’t do that because I grew to love these characters and I want them to have a happy ending.
Now he doesn’t talk to me, and I don’t know what to do. I really don’t want to change my story, but I also want to mend my relationship.