I still have some doubts and reservations about what transpired but that's for me to deal with.
TLDR; Submitted for the restraining order, which was granted yesterday.
Per 99% of you, I went to the police to inquire about a restraining order. I learned because of COVID, the process is to leave a message for the restraining order people and await a call back. In the meantime, the officer offered to call her and make it clear I want no contact. The cop called back after they spoke, and I was told she got the message loud and clear. She then drove by my house the next morning and emailed me from a new email around noon saying among others things, she's done contacting me.
I got the call from the restraining order advocates about a week later, told my story, and filed per her suggestion. After we applied, it took less than an hour for the request to be approved, and the court date was set 7 days later. I went with my Dad for support and was hoping she wouldn't show up, but she did. As you'd expect, it was very formal, but the highlights are her admitting everything I said she did was true, explaining what she hoped to accomplish by holding my car door open, and having to explain in detail the catfshing process. Her defense boiled down to her emotional state during the last two years, and that I'm an asshole who didn't give her closure. In the end, it was a good thing she came, because she kind of dug her own grave.
The commissioner made his decision pretty quickly and explained his reasoning. Most of the events looked at individually aren't terribly egregious, but clearly show a pattern and he sees no sign of it stopping; Especially given what she did after a cop called and told her to stop. He told her I am under no obligation to provide closure even though it might not be nice; It's been two years. He commented the catfishing was a pretty dire breach of intimacy/privacy, and he thought I'd shown a lot of restraint, which was nice to her.
He granted a 6-month restraining order after she expressed concern of how it would affect her nursing career, which I am fine with. This is a shield for me, not a sword. He further explained that if she continues the behavior after the 6 months, the next order will be for 4+ years basically no questions asked.
All in all, it seems pretty uneventful. The hearing made me very anxious, but was a good experience; I'm glad I did it. I still worry she'll do something like attempt suicide as a weird move, but that's out of my control. It's weird to still care about someone as a person and also want nothing to do with them. Care is probably too strong a word. I don't wish her any ill will; We weren't compatible; Just leave me alone.
So…….. I'm now taking girlfriend applications and have listed my qualities below from 'How is he still single' to 'Oh, that's why he's single'.
1) I have no sense of smell. Fart all you want! I can't tell!
2) I have a large bladder. This is important for theme parks.
3) I don't drink. You always have a DD
4) I might not always be emotionally available, but my dogs are
This is a joke, but am also lonely and I don't know how to meet people. I'm in Milwaukee.