How is your “if we are single by 30, we’re getting married” friend doing?

This is actually my time to shine! I met “Lisa” when I was in high school through a mutual friend. Lisa lived about 4 hours but we kept in touch by writing letters (this was in the 1980s). We met-up for a spring break trip at the beach and got along well since we hadn’t seen each other in several years. We both went to different colleges and dated on and off some during our college years. After college we dated then she went to Germany for 3 years. We’d see each other casually when she’d come home but nothing serious.

When she came back home from Germany we started seeing each other again. We made a pact that if we were not married by 30 we’d get married. We drifted apart a bit at 29 years old and we were both dating other people. She ended up marrying the person she was dating and I ended up marrying the person I was dating. We both went to each other’s weddings with our respective SO’s.

We’d meet as couples and go to dinner sometimes and once vacationed together for a long weekend. Our kids went to the same school for awhile, too. Then we lost touch for about 5 years…until one day I ran into Lisa at a local Starbucks.

I heard someone call my name and it was Lisa! We hugged and caught up for a while. I then asked her how her husband was doing and she said they split up about a year ago. She asked about my wife and I told her we split about 10 months ago. We looked at each other and I asked her if she’d meet me for coffee the next day and she immediately said yes!

We dated for several years and got married in December 2021.

We both got married before 30 to other people. She married a cool dude and had 4 kids. They had a beautiful family and so do I. I was genuinely happy for her and glad we didn’t “end up” with each other. She died of cancer a few years ago when her youngest kid was still in elementary school. My heart breaks for her and her family. I feel closer to them than they realize because I knew her since middle school. I think of them often and hope they are finding peace and happiness in this crazy life.

He’s unhappily married to someone else. Spends all his time gardening now.

With us it was “if we are still single at 65 let’s just move in together – at least we like each other.” We met first year at university and had been close friends ever since.

She died of breast cancer at 63. Miss her every day.

When we were 29/31, we decided “if we’re all alone at 50, we can be roommates”. We got married at 30/32 instead and got 2 kids now.

I’ve made that pact with so many people that I hope no one comes to make claims when I turn 30

I married her sister. I never wanted to marry her, she was my friend and she thought of the “if we aren’t married by 30”, thing.

She’s married to my good friend. But things are rocky. I just got divorced so maybe we’ll revisit this in our 40s? Just kidding.

Edit: Thanks for the love. I actually just saw my good friend last week. That’s when he shared they had discussed the “d-word” and that he cheated on her once. I said if he wanted to keep her, don’t ever tell her about that and don’t do it again. Also, he may want to cut down on drinking. She’s also a good friend of mine so I know that’s one of her gripes. I really don’t want them to split because I’m so proud of them. They are former heroin addicts that succefully kicked addiction and they have two kids.

He’s my soon to be ex husband… lol.

She’s been living a WILD life. We made the pact at 22, she got married by 24, divorced by 25, new relationship and got pregnant at 26, married at 28 and divorced at 30.

In that time she dropped out of college, went back to college, completed her associates, got nailed for a few drug charges and is currently fighting for custody of her kid with the dad.

This actually did happen for a friend of mine and his wife.

But it was more of a conversation along the lines of “hey remember that pact we made when we were 18 about getting married at 30 if we were both single? Well we are now 30 and single, did you want to give dating a shot”?

5 years later and they are now happily married, I have no idea why they didnt give dating a shot years before, but thats none of my business.

I kissed her this morning when I was leaving for work, we get married in 3 days.

No joke, made the pact, reconnected in person after a few years on my 31st birthday which is 3 days before her 30th, we went out for a date and we haven’t spent a night apart since. And in 3 days we say the ol I Do’s.

She’s a single mom now so I’m getting ready to strap my step dad boots on here shortly.

His wife has banned him from speaking to me

I’m marrying him in November! Well, marrying him to another woman….I’m their officiant 😀

He has like 5-6 kids. He actually hit me up when we were 30 (were 32 now) and asked about the deal. I was like “dude don’t you have like 5 kids???” I was not gonna take on that circus 😂

I just talked to them the other day. We’re both over 30 and still both unmarried 😇

She told me that 5 years ago. I said: why not just try dating now? We did. We’re married now 😀 Why wait?

Not me, but I have a former coworker that made that pact with his senior high school prom date. Lost touch for 7 or so years. Reconnected at the 10 year high school reunion. Got married 2 years later. Now 2 kids with a third on the way and VERY happy. It was cool to watch the majority of that story go down

I had a friend in middle/high school that told me we should make a marriage pact. if we weren’t married by 30 we’d get married. I lost contact with her after high school because she had a scary jealous boyfriend. She randomly added me on Facebook and asked for my phone number. I didn’t think it was a big deal so I sent it. She sent me a very graphic photo of herself and said “hey it’s me crisi!” And I was like hot damnnnn. We talked for a bit that day, but that was our only real conversation. She had brought up our pact and we joked about it for a bit. A few months later she messaged me asking if she can use my shower because her water got shut off. I thought that was unusual so I just told her it wasn’t a good time. That’s happened to me before and I’d normally message a family member or close friend. A couple days later she posted a video of her and some dude (not her old boyfriend) smoking crack under a freeway overpass. She had a bandana on her face and the filmed themselves smoking head banging to music thinking they looked bad ass. I felt really bad for her at that point. Then I wondered if I had let her use my shower if she would’ve robbed me with her cholo looking boyfriend. Not too long after that her boyfriend started posting online that she was missing and he can’t locate her. Two weeks after that he changed his status to single on Facebook and I still haven’t heard from my childhood friend. I hope she’s ok out there. Really hope she can get her shit together and get clean.