Questa volta abbiamo cercato: I do not want to be judged based on my parent’s wealth.
I'll get straight to it. I (19F) am a white-passing Hispanic (I'm tan but have blue eyes and I bleached my hair and to make things worse I sound like a valley girl.) I come from a wealthy family in an area known for its money. I admit that I have definitely had many advantages in comparison to others, but I do not consider myself to be a “spoiled brat”. I work for all of the things I have including my clothes, food, and phone. As a college student, my parents only support me financially for school and my car insurance. Coming from a Latino household, my parents have raised me to be humble about my advantages, and that it does not make me better than anyone else. This is a motto that we follow strictly.
I avoid talking about my parent's professions or my hometown since in the past I have gotten comments such as ” oh so you're rich then huh” or “I'm surprised that you're not a brat.” Obviously it is a subject that makes me uncomfortable because I often get stereotyped as self-centered and conceited, and I do not want people to judge me based on my socio-economic background.
Recently, word got around in one of my classes that I am from said-hometown. It was not until a friend (a little more than that but it's complicated) told me that a few people were going around telling others that I was rich and spoiled. Yesterday we were having a conversation about cars and he said to me that I probably drive a Porsche, or could if I wanted to. I did not want to get into the topic about money or luxury so I responded saying that I do not like flashy things and changed the subject.
Obviously I do not want my friend (who comes from disadvantaged background) to like me for my parent's money, but for who I am as a person.
It is unfair for me to say that I am embarrassed, but I really hate that people think of me like that 'rich white girl”
What can I do for people to like me for me instead of my parent's money?
(Im sorry if I sound whiny or bratty, I know that this isn't that serious of a problem but it is still something that bothers me.)
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