Hey there guys, not a big poster but I'm pretty much out of ideas here.
So three days ago my girlfriend's(f27) cousin spotted me(m29) on tinder. This isn't the first time someone spotted me on tinder so I was kinda aware that there was someone impersonating me. My Facebook was hacked a few years back so I knew there was some leaked information. I tried a few things to get rid of it (contacting tinder, logging in using my Facebook account and deleting it immediately) but that never did it.
But now my girlfriends cousin tipped her parents. Her parents made a big show of it, came to her job, dragged her back and announced her that. She came to me angry and crying at why I would do that.
Now here's the deal. I knew about it. I mentioned it to her a few years back. Like “btw apparently I'm on tinder, people have come to me saying they saw a profile with my pics”. Kinda in passing, mostly because I was not exactly proud of “being on tinder”.
I explained to her that it was fake. That I already told her, but she doesn't really remember it and with all the emotions involved she doesn't know anymore.
Now I already tried getting rid of it. Didn't work. I've now deleted every account that belongs to Facebook.
Now problem is. I don't have a pretty good defense. I cannot prove to them (because her family is now convinced I'm a cheating asshole) that the account is fake except for showing I didn't have Tinder on my phone. For them, “it's all too convenient” or “that's exactly what a guilty person would say”. My girlfriend is now torn between wanting to believe me but knowing her family's more sceptical. Of course it's going to make things absolutely awkward.
The account is even really well made. Multiple photos. My occupation and location. But all things that are, or at least were, available on Facebook.
It feels like a “you have to believe me” situation where I'll never be able to clear up my reputation and my girlfriend's.
I'm also really hurt about how much her family kind of decided I was guilty. We've been together almost 10 years now. I thought they trusted me more.
It feels like I have very little control on the situation. It's complete bullshit that's destroying my relationship. What can I do?