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Is it normal that my wife (27F) and me (30F) only want to hang out with each other?

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We've been together 7 years, living together 6 years, and married for 3 years. We've never had a real argument. We've had little moments when one of us is a bit annoyed or moody, but we end up just apologizing and laughing it off minutes later. She's my best friend.

Now, we are both happy, but I often worry whether or not what we are doing is healthy. We really only like to hang out with each other. We do have friends (mutual and individual friends). I've gone out dancing alone with my friends and so has she. We trust each other 100% so this isn't a possessiveness issue. It's more that we enjoy each other's company so much that we find hanging out with others to be a bit exhausting. If we go hang out with friends even if it is out to dinner or at their place for movies, we end up feeling SUPER grateful that the evening is over a few hours later and we can finally be alone together. We've cancelled plans dozens of times so that we can go out swimming together, watch movies and order Chinese food, etc.

Is this unhealthy? Every time I google it, it says that time apart is essential for a good relationship but the only time we have time apart is when we go to work or if I am working and she goes to visit her family for the weekend and I can't come. I've talked to her about it, and we both agree that we are very happy with the way things are.

i think you just picked the right person to marry

Don’t artificially create problems. If you are happy and she is happy then you are doing it right. There is no ‘one size fits all’ formula to relationships. Different things work for different people. Consider yourself lucky and revel in the beautiful life that you have instead of looking for problems.

I’m like that with my wife, I don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s good to be at peace with each other and yourself. Whenever my wife needs space to hang out I give it to her and vice versa. Just enjoy the time together.

Me (37F) and my husband (40M) are both really private, reclusive people. We enjoy sitting home sharing different forms of media, having individual time, and doing things with our children. We’ve been best friends since before we were married and after almost 8 years of marriage it’s still just what makes us happy. ??‍

You guys do your thing. If it works it works don’t second guess it if you are both happy. There is no “right” way to be human.

My wife and I are the same way. We are best friends and spend most of our time together. Doesn’t hurt we are both basically introverts. We do things separate when we want or need to, but normally we just chill together.

I personally don’t get couples who take separate vacations or spend most of their free time apart, just doesn’t seem like there is a point in their relationship, but just like us they can do their thing their way good on them if they like it.