He’s getting ready to “start fresh”.
Don’t you think you deserve to be with someone who doesn’t message other girls in front of you, who is proud that you are by his side and who wants to show you off? Don’t you think you’re worth that? Because I don’t even know anything about you and I can tell you that you are worth more than this guy is giving you.
I don’t know what you see in him but I’m betting a lot of it is potential. If he was just honest with you it would be better, if he was just a little nicer it would be better, all the potential he has to be amazing if he just tried a little bit more. You can see how nice he could be, how sweet he could be. But he isn’t doing that. He isn’t trying to make you feel special.
He wants his friends and people in the world to see him as a single man. He doesn’t let your lives intersect because he wants to be able to have a firm boundary. There is no you and him. There’s you. And then there’s him and he doesn’t want you in his life other than where you can warm him bed and do things for him in private. He’s manipulating you and making you feel like you’re the crazy one because you want to post a photo of you two.
My ex was a lot like that. When the girl he cheated on me with messaged me to let me know, he was so confused why my Instagram was public.
Now I am with someone who literally runs his IG like a professional page but guess what? When we went to an event together and took a photo, that photo was posted along with all his other job related posts.
This guy keeps bullshitting you with stupid excuses. He thinks you’re too devoted to really make a fuss. He doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t really like you but you are convenient for him.
Don’t date this guy for his potential. Don’t keep giving into his excuses. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. If you move with him, he’ll ruin your life and leave you to pick up the pieces without him in a new place.
You deserve someone who will introduce you to friends, who will be proud to be with you and who will treat you the way you deserve instead of gaslighting you about your concerns.
Your feelings about this are valid and warranted. He’s not nice to you. You need to be nice to yourself. Find someone who actually enjoys you. You’re worth it.
I find his reason of why he doesn’t want to post photos of you two doesn’t quite match his behavior at all. I mean I understand he is a private person but his statement just seems only to silent you. And telling you to take down all the photos you posted on Instagram is even more weird, I mean so for the last five years or so he had never had problems of being public? Doesn’t make sense to me.