Take this as a glimpse into the future. If hes able to do this so easily it’s probably not out of his character, even if you havent noticed it. Talk to him, make sure he understands your point of view and that you wont tolerate that crap from him in the future. His response will say it all.
It sounds to me like you guys are living in a very disorganized manner which stresses me out too. I’ve never went on a trip and not had a wallet???? Do you often times rely on him a lot for things?
So, first things first – yes, all husbands get grumpy sometimes. And so do all wives. So do all humans. The more comfortable you get with each other, the more comfortable he’ll feel letting his moods show – and that’s a good thing.
I apologize if I missed this in your post, there was a lot going on as I read, but did you ask him if something is wrong? Did you ask him if he’s feeling stressed lately?
Getting married, building a house, moving….these are all stressful things and you’re doing them all at once. And since you say these things are out of character, there’s definitely a reason.
Just sit down and ask him if something is wrong, if he’s stressed, etc. You’ll need to get good at this if you want a healthy happy marriage.
Also – you said you read psych articles online that said you just shouldn’t let it get to you?
First, don’t go to articles online, talk to your fiance about it.
Second, I wouldn’t ever just say just don’t let it get to you. Out of character grumpiness means something is wrong and you shouldn’t ignore it.