So I don’t want to get too deep into nitty gritty details about the whole thing that he went through, but just before quarantine my husband was raped multiple times by his boss. He didn’t tell me for about a month but I could tell something was wrong, he claimed he was fine.
He then told me, but framed it like it was his fault. He then apologized to me for cheating on me and said we should probably just get a divorce. I tried to assure him that it wasn’t his fault but he won’t listen. He’s been a complete wreck this last month and I can’t get him to see a therapist. He just says it was his fault and he doesn’t need one. He’s said that he couldn’t have been raped because he’s a man, which I know is bullshit but he believes.
I really hate seeing him like this, but I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried telling him myself it’s not his fault, I’ve tried getting him to see someone. I can’t tell anyone we know about it. What can I do for him here?