I don’t think I have much of a relationship with my parents at this point but I’m hoping to see what can be done if there is anything to be done
I (20F), last year, had an attempt on my life which my parents blamed on my boyfriend now fiancé. I admit I’m not a perfect daughter especially with my parents’ very conservative views. I live in the Philippines.
I do not know how they came ahold of my sensitive pictures (they took my phone as punishment for trying to kill myself and having a boyfriend) so they probably hacked it and went through my personal accounts and their messages. As I was just recovering, they used my nudes to shame me, my fiancé, and my relationship, to my fiancé’s parents and others saying that they found it randomly open in a phone. (Private convos like that are not just randomly opened.) This was an attempt to make me break up with my boyfriend because they really didn’t want me having a relationship and they blamed all my problems on him.
Just the other day, I happened to come across my mother’s phone to find my pictures and private conversations still saved in an album in her gallery. I wanted to delete them myself then and there but I would probably have gotten caught, so I just froze and am relapsing badly right now.
I tried r/legaladvice to see if I can legally do anything because I’m not confident me just talking to them alone would do anything. They would probably threaten me with my private messages and pictures again, and I don’t want that.
I am fully dependent on my parents for everything but my fiancé’s family would accept me if I were to move in with them, but this is really a long shot. Take note that this is because of our culture, and my parents refused to teach me anything that can make me independent. (I don’t have a job, I can’t drive, etc.)
Is there anything I can do? All advice I’ve ever gotten is “you have no choice, they’re your parents” or “finish school and get a job and find work” but I can’t put up with that if they just hang my private messages and pictures over my head to control me. I am honestly very distraught right now. I am hoping anyone can help or offer anything?