I’ve learned to enjoy and treasure being alone. Of course, I’m open to relationships, but I don’t feel the constant need to have one like I used to. Also, I’ve realized I could spend the rest of my life without sex and wouldn’t miss it.
I have been using them for ages.
However, I have been doing so during the pandemic, more with the intention of passing the time, rather than actually finding a partner (either casual or long term), leading to more matches just ‘fizzling out’, rather than leading to a date (or more) and being formally ended.
Unfortunately, lots of people have gone on there out of boredom. Sure, that means there are more potential matches, but also a much, much larger number of men without any pictures of themselves (either no pics, or something like an animal, a ‘meaningful’ quote, etc), men stating in their bio to just be looking (no interest in actually matching anyone, much less building a relationship. Sometimes even flat out stating they are already in one, just bored), and, most annoyingly, men deleting their profile (and thereby the match/conversation), only to pop up with an identical profile the next day.
So, if anything, I have started to exchange phone numbers with anyone I actually enjoy talking to a lot quicker.
Here’s what I see:
- Women asking for sugar daddies
- women disguised as sugar babies
- normal people with okay profiles
- women who plaster their WeChat everywhere
- women who don’t respond for 2+ weeks
I’ve gotten one good match where we had a good conversation pre-COVID but she just stopped talking to me after while. I don’t know what I said to have her stop talking to me but oh well.
I stopped dating apps years and years ago.
Depending on how you wish to view ultimate results, Facebook was much more effective yet devastating. Basically, got lots of dates and a couple relationships out of it, but the shared social media circle of it made aftermath horrific.
Moved to a new city across the country a month before the pandemic. In my 20s and generally want and feel like I should be dating but these circumstances make it impossible to meet new people. Gave the dating apps a shot. I think they are horribly depressing and genuinely hate using them and it’s pretty difficult to find people you have common interests with and to make a genuine connection. All that being said recently went on a second date with someone I think I have a lot in common with and am genuinely interested in so I guess they are not 100% bad.