Who was your first love, how old were you and did it last?

When I was 18 and in high school, I fell in love with a guy I saw as just a friend at first. He had split from his girlfriend (who was also my friend) and he started to show interest in me. I asked both of them if it was ok and if they were sure they were over each other and they both assured me they were. So I allowed myself to really fall in love. He was my first everything, even my first date, my first kiss… he completely love bombed me and I fell for it 💯.

After 5 months of pure passion and bliss, he suddenly dumped me to go back to her. I didn’t see it coming and I was absolutely destroyed. The worst part for me was that they ended up getting married… it made me feel so worthless, like I’d been nothing to him, and it took me years to get over it.

I have had only 1 love, only 1 relationship. Met him in college at 17, started dating at 22 and married at 24. Now am 41, so I guess it will last lifetime. We are each others first for everything.

We have known each other more than half of our lives, so we have grown together. We have discussed, challenged everything on this earth. We have been each others devil’s advocate and each others cheerleader too. It was never blind love, we loved each other for who we were and who we have grown into.

My first love was when I was 17. We were together for 5 years and we were each others firsts.
I loved him more than anything but we fought constantly due to my anxious tendencies and his inability to treat me like a priority in his life. I cried nearly every day while in that relationship convinced that I was the problem.

2 years ago he broke up with me because he didn’t want to miss out on what could be a big milestone in his life (college hookup culture).

I’m currently with someone new. Been together 6 months and it turns out that dating someone who is consistent,mature,and devoted can really change an anxious to a secure attachment. He
shows me every day in both the little and big things that he genuinely cares about me that If a man wanted to he would. I’m so glad my ex broke up with me.

I was 17. We lasted just over 3 years. Then he started smoking, using drugs and cheated. He said he was too young for a serious relationship and didn’t want to settle down yet. 4 months later his new girlfriend was pregnant and he had to settle down quickly. I laughed and thought it was very ironic. I’m glad it didn’t work out for us.

Man, but going to answer anyway because it’s a great question. Wife, started in high school, still together in our 50s. Been tested enough to know that it will stay that way until the dirt nap lol

Danny. I was 5. It lasted about 2 weeks.

I was with him 3 years and we just broke up 3 weeks ago. It hurts so bad but we were each others firsts trying to make it work. We ended up incompatible. It still sucks. I’m hoping to get over it soon, but I know it takes time.

31, didn’t last. Was a lesson. Met the love of my life after!

I was 19 and met him in college. I don’t think I should have been in a relationship at that time as I was very immature. And he wasn’t well either, he had very deep depression and insecurity issues.

It didn’t last. I ended it as a 19 year old shouldn’t be told they are the only good and happy thing in a person’s life. So anytime I didn’t make him happy was just gut wrenching.

I was able to recognise he needed serious mental health.

And I wouldn’t light myself on fire to keep him warm.

He messaged me exactly one year after our breakup that he’s in therapy.

And the year after, he sadly took his life. That was 3 years ago and I only found out a few months ago.

I still think about him often. He was a kind person and I truly hope he rests in peace.

Not my first relationship but I consider my first love to be a guy I dated from 21-23. About 2 years. More than half of it was long distance because he dropped out of college and moved shortly after we got together. First guy who I felt “saw” me and understood me at my core. It was a bad relationship but it showed me what I want and I was luckily able to find the greatest love of my life because of it.