My bf and I have been together for four years. I've noticed he absolutely loves to push my buttons.
I'm quite passionate about certain things and he loves to pretend he feels the opposite to watch me vehemently deny, get impassioned and defend said topic.
He does this only for the purpose of winding me up, and gets absolute joy out of watching my reaction.
To give an example: I don't like hunting, so he will talk about how wonderful it must be to have your first kill. He of course doesn't like to hunt, but he talks about it in such a way that he is begging me to jump in and state my piece so he can delight from me responding.
At first I found it quite cute/funny, because I always bite, and then I think 'oh you caught me out again! Haha'.
But now I just feel a bit stupid being wound up, and it's started to annoy me. It's gotten to the point that when he says things, I just ignore him or have no reaction, because I assume he is trying to wind me up and I don't want to get caught out. I just want to be able to have genuine conversation that doesn't devolve to him pushing my buttons.
Am I being a joykill? He genuinely is being light hearted when he does it, but it's grinding my gears: he trolls me all the time.
Is there something more sinister about this? Sometimes it feels manipulative but the amount of sheer joy he gets seems harmless enough.
I snapped at him and he seemed hurt. I said 'I never know if you are expressing your real feelings or just trying to get a rise out of me, and it makes me not want to talk to you.'
Anyway is this something? Or nothing.
TLDR: My bf's teasing is pissing me off. Do I need to grow a thicker skin, or is there something deeper going on here?