I cant believe this is happening. I went to high school with this girl who is 5 years older than me (we are now both in our twenties and both female). I wasn’t really friends with her however we were friendly with each other.
Fast forward 3 years, she reached out to me and wanted to get coffee. I of course was eager to do so. She has always been a little different and I thought she may just have some learning disabilities (which she confirmed with me and told me about it). I have hung out with her just twice within the past couple of months. Both times I picked her up from her college campus and I then drove her to coffee and food places and then back to her home which is about 15 minutes away just to drop her off. Everything has been going well and she’s asked me to go to some concerts with her (she normally initiates). Again, we have only hung out twice since high school. Both times I dropped her off at home and came inside and had some nice conversations with her Mother. Not too long, maybe about 15 minutes each time. And then left right after. Everything seemed fine and it has been pretty casual, nothing crazy.
So….this morning my Mom was talking to a new friend (we will call my Mom’s friend Jill). Jill knows this girl and her family. My Mom mentioned that I had reconnected with my friend, told Jill my name, and Jill said someing shocking. She had this look on her face and said that my friend’s Mom said something to her husband. Jill said that her husband was talking with my friend’s Mom and that the Mom said, and I quote, “My daughter is extremely vulnerable. In fact, she just reconnected with a high school friend, (insert my name), who is grooming her”.
I. Cannot. Believe. This. I have so many emotions going through me right now. All I wanted was to be nice to this girl and now it is going around that I am grooming her😭. HOW? WHY? I’m worried that this false accusation could affect my life. I never even initiated any of our hangouts. It seems like her Mom made this all up on her own because my friend is texting me like normal. Apparently my friend’s Mom also accused another lady of the same thing so it seems like it’s a pattern. What do I do? Do I just ghost my friend? This is the most disturbing thing that’s happened to me. I wouldn’t wish being falsely accused of something like this on anybody. I am extremely paranoid now that the Mom has told everybody her lie.
Edit: I’m also 100% heterosexual and have a boyfriend. Making the whole thing even more confusing. I’m also without a doubt positive that my Mom’s friend said that. She has a reputation for calling random women groomers of her daughter.
I (21f) reconnected with a mentally disabled girl from high school (26f) a couple of months ago and have hung out with her twice. She is the one that has initiated, just going to coffee shops and to get food. I’ve had a couple of short conversations with her Mom. I just found out that my friend’s Mom is telling people that I am grooming her. Using my whole name and everything. I AM SO CONFUSED AND SHOCKED. I have spent max 3 hours with her and all in public places. I don’t know what to do!