TL;DR My husband made out with another man two years ago. How do I bring this up to him?
Together for seven years and married for one. I was sitting next to my husband as he was scrolling through a text thread with a mutual friend of ours looking for a specific picture. As he was doing this I saw a text that read something along the lines of “I heard you made out with ‘Dan’ the other night. He said it was weird but he’s cool with you”. Dan is another mutual friend of ours. I remember this particular night because husband came home extremely drunk which never happens. This was over two years ago and before we were married. I have a pit in my stomach and don’t know what to do. I have to bring this up to him but I am scared to learn more. How do I start this conversation? What questions do I need to ask?
EDIT: After not being able to think about any thing else all morning, I finally called my husband and told him what I saw and asked him point blank what happened. A night of heavy drinking led to a “bromance” (stupid compliments and lots of bro hugs), and our friend texted him about it the next day to tease him. He sent me a screenshot of the texts so I could see the whole conversation in context. My husband thinks this whole situation is hilarious and I have to admit I’m laughing about it now too. I feel like an idiot but I’m glad we were able to talk about it.
Lessons learned? I need to calm the fuck down and communicate before I jump to conclusions. I’ve never snooped through his phone and this solidifies why I never will. Context is key in electronic communication, and it’s a guarantee you’ll find something that makes you nervous even if you trust your partner.