Women who have self esteem issues, what made you or how did you stop comparing yourself to others?

It’s an ongoing process. Some days are better than others. I try to focus on my strengths and remind myself that nobody has it all. I also think – what strength would I be willing to give up to have something else? I personally wouldn’t want to lose any. But I think of it as give and take, which helps me realize I have qualities others wish they had, and vice versa. Focus on your strengths and make them even better. Emphasize the positive.

Being deliberate with my thoughts. I allot 5 minutes a day for myself to think of everything I am thankful for and things I like about myself. I know it sounds silly, but during these 5 minutes I do not allow any negative thoughts. Forcing myself to do this on a regular basis has really helped me to build confidence. I also try to limit time browsing social media when I am feeling down because I get into the comparison game which often leads to negative rabbit hole thinking.

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I limit social media. I also surround myself with women and men who uplift and inspire me.

I stopped judging others. I used to be incredibly insecure, and I used to judge other people’s appearances a lot. When I stopped myself from doing that, I found I felt better about myself. Positive thinking in general also helps a long way. Mentally slap yourself when you have a negative thought about yourself.

I started following thebirdspapaya on Instagram. Sarah’s posts about loving your body and loving yourself are amazing. Also: therapy.