I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost two years now. She’s a nice girl. She’s lovely, a good person, fun and we share so many interests. We’ve also spent the last 8 months practically living together. Things are good, but…
Most of her family is dead and she almost has no friends. She had more friends but I think she slowly kind of obsessed with me and stopped talking to them?
She also has serious anxiety and depression, which makes everything so. hard.
She was fired from her previous job because she just didn’t meet the expectations (no surprise since she didn’t work at all). I work as a freelancer and my current client needed to hire someone else, so I got her in. And she’s doing nothing again. If it wasn’t because she can only charge for actual work (that’s how freelancing works), she would’ve been fire from this job a long time ago.
She’s so fucking insecure. It’s annoying. I have to do everything with her because her. It even holds me back. I usually stop myself from doing things because I’d like to do them alone and I’d rather not do them at all. Not even serious things, I’m talking playing videogames, starting hobby projects, going out with my friends, whatever.
So these are the biggest issues. I’m practically all she has, she has crippling anxiety/depression, wouldn’t be able to make a living by herself right now.
And I’m trapped. I’m sad. I feel sad as I write this. I feel like shit. She’s nice, I just need space and I swear I asked her for space so many times.
TL;DR: gf is emotionally and financially dependent of me, I’m suffocating, can’t leave and feel trapped