I really think it’s time for a marriage counselor. A few thoughts are probably swirling in your head that you deserve answers to.
- Did she settle for you
- Were there any inappropriate conversations/actions once you met her
- What your brothers side of this is
- If she can lie about this what else could she lie about?
I think you need to first get all the info you can. I’d want to know his side right away. I think once you know what actually happened then it’s time for professional help. This is a betrayal, you’re not overreacting. I’m so sorry. She needs to understand that she just made you question your whole relationship and it’s her own doing by lying.
She doesn’t give a shit about your feelings. Don’t buy that excuse. She was protecting herself.
“I dIdN’t WaNt To HuRt YoU”
Personally what would bother me is that everyone knew except you and they all laughed about it and yet you were the only one excluded. You definitely deserve an apology from both of them for keeping it from you. Also being in your thirties and pursuing a 21 yr old is kinda gross.