I am 35, my wife is 38. We first met in July 2016 after a mutual friend set us up on a blind date. We got married in May of 2018, and are celebrating our 2 year anniversary. We have a 1 year old son.
I have two brothers, one older and one younger [25M]. My younger brother is very handsome, smart, and successful and a lot of women throw themselves at him.
Yesterday, my wife was showing me some old photos on her previous phone from when we first started dating in 2016, because we want to make a scrapbook to mark our 2 year anniversary. She then accidentally scrolled through a photo of her standing next to my brother as well as some screenshotted texts.
I asked her what those were, and she laughed and said she had actually met my brother at the cocktail party of some friends back in April 2016. Apparently they hooked up after the party and exchanged numbers.
She let me read through the texts because she thought it was funny. I looked and she wrote stuff like “hey cutie!” and “would love to hang out or get drinks with you sometime”. My brother was completely not interested, his last text to her was “sorry but Im just not in a place to date anyone, I just got out of a long term relationship and I feel like we have a generational gap between us”.
My wife said it made her a bit bummed out when he rejected her, but she got over it quickly. She said when she met me three months later she didn’t even know I was his brother at first.
A lot of things now make sense. Because my brother got back with his ex girlfriend [22F] in 2017 and my wife has never liked his girlfriend. She thinks that she is too “showy”. Also, my wife has always been close to my brother and now I’m wondering if there are ulterior motives.
I got upset after my wife revealed this to me and said I needed some time alone. I can’t believe she hasn’t told me after nearly 4 years. She said she didn’t want me to get angry and said it also wasn’t her proudest moment.
We haven’t spoken since yesterday. I feel like she needs to apologize to me for keeping this a secret. She says I am overreacting, but I don’t think I am.
TLDR: Wife revealed that a few months before she met me, she had slept with my younger brother after a party.
UPDATE: My brother just called back and he said he didnt tell me about it because he “didnt think it was worth mentioning” and that it was a one night thing. He says there’s nothing between them and even his girlfriend knows about it. Apparently she thinks its hilarious.