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Bf (24) told girl (20s) that he hopes she is still single if we don’t work out (19F)

It isn’t because she’s super attractive, it’s because he doesn’t think your relationship is serious and doesn’t expect long term results. He’s 5 years older than you and is clearly still in the hookup mindset as he is keeping his options open- if you haven’t had a conversation about how serious you want the relationship to be this may be the time, if not it may be time to end things before you get stuck in a ‘committed’ relationship that’s unbalanced.

I know it must’ve been so hard to read that, but I agree you need to dump his ass. Anyone who truly value you in a relationship wouldn’t entertain another woman AND entertain the idea of getting together with her while he’s still with you . I’m sorry this happened but you’re worth way more!

Tell him it’s his lucky day because now he can go be with her cuz the day you two have broken up has come earlier than he expected!

I honestly think that you should dump him. He wouldn’t of said that if he was legitimately looking to be in a relationship for long term.

You need to leave him. What’s the point of your relationship?

I’d never be with a man who was keeping his options open to other women down the road.

He’s got one foot out the door already. There’s no commitment to the relationship. Yeah snooping was wrong but you did it and now you know. What’s done is done. The question is whether you’re okay with being in a relationship with someone who is actively cultivating outside relationships in preparation for your breakup that he seems to fully expect. You don’t need to confront him to decide this.