If my boyfriend had cheated on me, I would want to know. Especially if I had already wasted 8 years with him; I would want to get out and enjoy my life with someone who respects me and appreciates me. It may give you some more peace, I’m not quite sure. But I still think it’s the right thing to do… although it might dredge things back up, so be prepared for that.
Fuck it tell him, hurt her how she hurt you.
Do what you want though, just make sure it’s what you want.
Yes AND BREAK UP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND.
I was cheated on, and the girl told me (with proof via screenshots and whatnot) because he had lied about his relationship status with me and she slept with him without knowing about me. It was going on for a while. I am so glad that she did. I broke up with him.
I think people deserve to know. It’s difficult no matter what, but I was grateful I had the knowledge to make my own decision. Sometimes people work through it, sometimes people don’t. This was the second time he’d cheated on me, so there was no negotiation.
As others have said here, don’t tell the other person just because you want to ‘spite’ or think it will make the damage your BOYFRIEND’S actions have had on your self-worth (which, by the way, gurl, you deserve someone that WOULDN’T do this to you in the first place) go away. Think about if your boyfriend seems genuinely remorseful and wants to make it work with you, or is only feeling bad because he got caught. You. Deserve. Better. I was with my ex for YEARS before this came up. Don’t let that be a factor in not leaving. Best wishes.
Yes. You are their ally if you don’t.
I was in this exact same boat. I texted the other man all of the information an anonymous person also sent me. What they do with it is their business. I kept myself anonymous too. But I could – not sure if you have proof that you can use or not.